If the thought of flying with your kids is making you feel nervous, this one’s for you. It’s true that flying with young kids can be a challenge. We’ve been doing it since both our girls were babies and it’s not for the faint hearted! We’ve had our fair share of tears and melt downs and have put together our 10 top tips for parents flying with kids—so you can get through your next flight with your sanity (mostly) intact.
1. Pick Flights That Work for Your Kid’s Schedule (Not Just Your Wallet)
Timing is everything. A $49 red-eye might look great when you book it, but not when your overtired toddler is losing their mind at 2am in Row 14. If possible, fly during your child’s usual awake times. Early morning flights are often more reliable and quieter (meaning fewer delays and calmer passengers).
2. Book Your Seats Together (Don’t Leave It to Chance)
It sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised how many families get split up on flights—especially with budget airlines or basic economy fares where seat selection isn’t included. Always try to book your seats together in advance, even if it costs a little extra. It’s worth it to avoid the last-minute scramble at the gate or relying on the kindness of strangers to swap seats so you can sit next to your child.
For young kids, airlines are usually supposed to seat at least one adult with them, but this doesn’t always go smoothly—especially if the flight is full or seats were booked late.
If you couldn’t secure seats together ahead of time, speak with a gate agent as early as possible. They’re often more helpful than the check-in desk or cabin crew once you’ve boarded.
Book bassinets if you are flying with a baby.
Bassinet seats are on the bulkhead (wall) of the plane. They usually have a little extra room and are conveniently located near restrooms. Bassinets give your baby, and you, some space (rather than having to hold them on your lap for the full flight).
Check out seat safety information here.
3. Pack a “Plane Survival Kit” for Each Kid
Air travel is tiring, often boring, food choices are limited, and your kids have restricted movement. Preparing for these inevitable situations (and predictably cranky kids) will make your life a lot easier. To ‘survive’ a flight, without losing your mind, put together a kit for each child.
Include something like:
- A small notebook or coloring pad
- Reusable sticker books
- Headphones + downloaded shows (do this ahead of time, don’t rely on airplane Wi-Fi)
- A surprise toy, treat, or snack for when things go sideways
- A toy or activity that will keep them entertained for longer than 5 minutes
- Books
🎒 Pro tip: Pack everything in a backpack they can carry themselves—kids love being “in charge” of their gear.
Don’t forget the tech side of survival! Chargers for Kindles, iPads, and phones—and a fully charged power bank—can be total lifesavers when the kids need a distraction. I always keep a pen handy too, perfect for impromptu games of tic-tac-toe and filling out immigration forms. A small pack of cards or a game of UNO also goes a surprisingly long way in keeping everyone entertained at 30,000 feet.
And if you’re flying long-haul, pack toothbrushes, lip balm, wipes, and other little comfort items—they make a huge difference in keeping everyone fresh and comfortable on a long flight.
4. Don’t Rely on the Airline for Food
Airline snacks are hit or miss, and delays happen. Bring more food than you think you need—think protein-rich snacks, fruit, crackers, and something fun (chips or gummies go a long way in a moment of crisis).
If your airline offers the option, be sure to book a kids’ meal in advance—it’s a small step that can make a big difference mid-flight. Kids’ meals usually come out first (a major win if your child is getting hangry), and they’re often more appealing to little ones—think pasta, chicken nuggets, or familiar snacks. It also gives you a chance to help them with their food before your own meal arrives, so you’re not juggling trays and spills all at once. Just don’t forget to double-check the meal request when confirming your booking!
On one flight, I had the brilliant idea to book myself a “speciality meal,” thinking I’d sneak in an early dinner alongside the girls and their kids’ meals. And honestly? I felt very smug tucking into my delicious curry long before the rest of the cabin was served. That smugness evaporated at breakfast, though, when my special meal arrived… and it was curry again. No! Meanwhile, Chris sat beside me happily cutting into a fluffy omelet while I pushed a jalfrezi around my plate. Chris, thankfully, offered to share (hero!).
Remember to keep hydrated
Staying hydrated is key when flying, especially for kids. Depending on the airport’s rules, little ones under a certain age can often bring a drink through security—so be sure to check the local regulations before you go. For older kids and adults, bringing an empty reusable water bottle is a must. The good news? Flight attendants are usually happy to fill up your bottles during the flight, so you and your kids can stay refreshed both on board and after landing. This comes in handy if you’re expecting long lines at immigration or a wait before you can grab a drink on the ground.
Keeping it real: I once thought my kids could carry their water through security, but nope—nowhere to pour it—so there I was chugging water from Frozen thermoses like I was in a competitive drinking challenge, only to glance over and see an acquaintance whose husband works with Chris. She was watching, horrified as water dribbled down my chin. Fail! Always check the rules before you arrive.
5. Explain What to Expect (Even to Toddlers)
Talk through the airport experience before you go and as things happen. What’s security? Why do we wait in lines? What’s going to happen when the plane takes off? When kids know what’s coming, they’re less likely to freak out when it does happen.
Make it fun—watch an airport video together or role-play “boarding the plane” with stuffed animals.
If your child is nervous about flying—or it’s their very first time—talking through what to expect can make a huge difference. Keep it simple and age-appropriate. You can act it out at home using toy planes or stuffed animals, or read children’s books about flying (there are some great ones that explain everything from security to takeoff).
Play is a powerful tool for easing anxiety, and turning the unknown into something familiar can help kids feel more in control. Bonus: it also gives them something to look forward to, like spotting the clouds out the window or getting a special snack once they’re in the air.
Sore Ears
Changes in air pressure during takeoff and landing can make kids’ ears feel uncomfortable or “pop,” which can be really unsettling for little ones. To help ease this, encourage your child to swallow, yawn, or chew something—like gum, a snack, or a bottle—during these times. Ask them to open their mouths as wide as they can or do the biggest yawn they’ve ever done. Opening their mouths wide for a moment can help!
For babies, feeding during takeoff and landing works wonders because swallowing helps equalize ear pressure too. Bringing along favorite chewy snacks or drinks can make this easier and keep your child comfortable throughout the flight.
6. Board Early—Or Last
Most airlines allow families with young kids to board early. If you need overhead bin space or time to get settled, take it.
If you want to give your kids more time to move around, and if someone else is with you, try this tip. One adult boards early with the bags, and the other waits until the last possible minute with the kids. Less time confined to a seat = fewer meltdowns.
7. Keep Expectations Low and Flexibility High
Even with all the planning, kids will be kids. There might be a meltdown or an accident or a moment you just need to breathe into a snack bag.
That’s okay. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s just getting there in one piece. Give yourself and your kids some grace, and celebrate the small wins.
If you’re flying with a child who has special needs, a little extra preparation can make the journey much smoother—for both of you. Every child is different, so think about what helps your child feel safe and calm in new situations. Noise-canceling headphones, a comfort item, or a visual schedule can go a long way.
Many airlines also offer special assistance services—from early boarding to help navigating the airport—so it’s worth calling ahead to ask what’s available. And don’t be afraid to advocate for your child’s needs. You know them best, and a little planning can help turn a stressful situation into something manageable—and even enjoyable.
8. What to Wear on a Plane with Kids: Comfort Comes First
Layers are key. Planes can be freezing or stuffy, and you don’t want to deal with a wardrobe disaster at 30,000 feet.
And yes, that includes you—wear something comfy, breathable, and spill-friendly. Also: bring a change of clothes for each kid in your carry-on and a spare shirt for you, especially if your kids are very young or accident prone. I’ve lost count of the times I’ve ended up covered in one of my kids drinks.
When it comes to flying with kids, comfort wins—every time. You don’t need to show up looking airport-chic. You need to be able to bend down, chase a toddler, and survive a six-hour flight without wishing you’d worn pajamas.
We always go for layers: a hoodie for each of us (planes can get chilly), fluffy socks for that extra cozy feeling, and bring Crocs or sliders for long-haul flights—they’re easy to slip on and off at security or during bathroom runs.
For me? I leave the jeans at home and opt for soft, stretchy pants—not quite MC Hammer level, but not far off either. The kids usually fly in leggings or joggers and a comfy T-shirt under their hoodie. It’s all about cosy, practical, and easy to manage, especially when someone inevitably spills apple juice or needs a quick outfit change mid-flight.
When my kids were little and we had overnight flights, I used to pack their pajamas in the carry-on and change them once we were settled on the plane. It was part practical, part psychological—it signaled that it was time to wind down and (hopefully) sleep, even if we were 30,000 feet in the air.
Honestly, I think it helped a little—but even if it didn’t knock them out instantly, it made me feel like we were keeping some sense of routine. Plus, there’s something comforting about cozy PJs on a long flight, especially when you’re trying to recreate bedtime in the sky.
9. Be Respectful—But Don’t Stress About Judgy Stares
Let’s be real: flying with kids means you’re always walking a fine line between managing your child’s needs and being considerate of everyone around you. Yes, we want to be respectful—no seat kicking, no iPads blasting “Cocomelon” at full volume. A quick reminder to your kids about being good “plane neighbors” goes a long way.
But also? Don’t lose sleep over what strangers think.
When my eldest was little, she used to have a full-blown freakout every single time we buckled her seatbelt. We hadn’t even taken off yet, and she’d be screaming like we were strapping her to a rocket. I could feel the side-eyes from nearby passengers—mostly from those without kids—but I knew the routine. She’d settle down once we were in the air. And guess what? She always did.
So my advice? Stay calm. Ignore the judgment. You know your kid, and you’re doing your best. The people glaring at you now were once babies too (even if they’ve forgotten).
10. Flying Solo? You’ve Got This (and You’re Not Alone)
Whether you’re a single parent or just flying without your partner, traveling alone with kids is no small feat—and you deserve a medal just for showing up at the airport. From managing luggage to wrangling a toddler through security, it’s a lot.
If you’re going it alone, plan ahead to keep things as hands-free as possible: wear a backpack instead of a shoulder bag, use a stroller as a gear-hauler, and don’t be shy about asking for help. Most people want to help—you just have to ask. That being said, you need to be realistic about how much luggage you can handle, while wrangling your kids. Big kids and teen will be able to help.
Flight attendants are also there to assist you, especially during boarding and deplaning. If you need help lifting your bag, heating a bottle, or just an extra set of eyes while you buckle your little one, let them know—they’re usually more than happy to support parents flying solo.
I once helped a mom traveling alone with her baby who didn’t have a free hand to lift her bag into the overhead bin. She looked exhausted but grateful, and I’ll never forget how relieved she was when someone simply stepped in. So if that’s you? Don’t hesitate to accept a hand. You’re doing something brave, and you’re not in it alone—even if it feels like it sometimes.
FAQ – Flying With Kids Tips for Parents
Q1: Can I bring breast milk or formula on a plane?
A: Yes – according to the TSA ‘Formula, breast milk, toddler drinks and baby/toddler food (to include puree pouches) are considered medically necessary liquids.’ learn more here.
Q2: What snacks are allowed on planes for children?
A: Most solid snacks like fruit, granola bars, crackers, and sandwiches are fine. Avoid liquids over 3.4 oz (100 ml). Packing familiar favorites can prevent hangry meltdowns and keep your flight smooth.
Q3: How can I keep kids entertained on long flights?
A: Bring a mix of small toys, coloring books, electronics with headphones, and a few surprise treats. Quiet activities like books or puzzles are also lifesavers for when the airplane gets noisy.
Q4: Should my child sit in a window seat?
A: Window seats are perfect for distraction—kids can watch clouds, planes, and scenery below. Pair with headphones or an activity tray for a more peaceful flight.
Q5: How do I help my child with ear pressure during takeoff and landing?
A: Encourage swallowing, chewing gum, or sipping water. For toddlers, a bottle or sippy cup works wonders. Planning ahead prevents discomfort and fussiness.
Q6: What should I know about boarding with kids?
A: Arrive early and allow extra time. Keep passports, boarding passes, and essentials handy. Consider pre-boarding if your airline offers it—less stress, more sanity.
Q7: Any final sanity-saving tip for parents?
A: Always double-check airline and TSA rules before you go. Little mistakes, like trying to bring a full water bottle through security, can become hilarious (or mortifying) lessons!
Final Thoughts
Flying with kids doesn’t have to be a full-blown disaster. With a bit of prep, some humor, and snacks in every pocket, you’ve totally got this!
Remember—every chaotic trip becomes a great story later. ✈️
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